Because, there will always be rules that govern your household whether you’ve consciously and proactively written them or not.
Some people may ot realise that even when you haven’t explicitly written/created these rules/processes/habits, they will exist. Eating in front of the TV, not greeting each other in the morning, not sitting to eat together, not cleaning the house, etc. Most people wouldn’t write that down as a rule, but by not explicitly stating the opposite, these habits might just creep into your home and become the implicit habits.
It’s important to create systems for every aspect of your home life. Not because we’re trying to live in a dictatorial military home but because it facilitates and simplifies everyone’s life. Everyone knows where they stand and it removes the mental strain of having to make decisions every time on what needs to be done in this, that or that area, what decision needs to be made here and there, who does what etc.
Also, having rules and systems doesn’t mean that you need to stick by them 100% of the time, but what it allows is for you to be able to just jump right back on even when you find that you’ve fallen off the wagon.
Why create systems?
I am going to talk about Mcdonalds here. They are where they are, best in the world for what they do because they created systems. No matter where I am in the world, I know my cheeseburger will taste like a cheeseburger because they have systemised and controlled everything they do to the T.
In creating systems, it’s important to start with the vision of where you want to be first. A bit like the way businesses write their mission statements. The reason why it’s a good idea to do that is so that you can always refer back to that and decide if the systems you will put in place are aligned to what you want for your family. I created some values for my family. One of them was to live harmoniously, in order.
- I want us to be a family of creators rather than consumers. What can we create from scratch? What can we build instead of buy?
- Safe place – an environment which is a safe enough place to be yourself. To be free. Also a safe enough place to make mistakes and knowing that it is alright to do so.