I was thinking recently (when I wasn’t supposed to be indulging in thinking, but just couldn’t help myself), that we are all puzzle pieces. And that which defines us, our borders, is ever-morphing in response to our own growth and transformation. So one day we might fit neatly into the larger puzzle, and then a few weeks, months, or years later, either we’ve morphed or the collective has morphed so we don’t fit any more. Then it is time to move on. Whether a friendship, a job, a location, whatever it happens to be. And it isn’t good, bad, right, or wrong. It simply is. Too often I believe we feel the need to overanalyze, to condemn it if it no longer works for us. But really, it is that the fit just isn’t a good one any longer.
Typically, I think, if it resonates it is working. And usually we know this on the gut level if we are paying attention.
“Let yourself be silently drawn by the pull of what you really love…”
February 12, 2009 at 6:05 am
Good one Molly..:) It really is that – change happens – it is not good or bad. The way I look at it is – it is something that we need at that time. Our problem is that “we” think we know what is best for us and if things are not going according to our plan, there is an issue. Often times in life, I have found I don’t know what is best for me and flowing with the life results in much better outcome. I am kind of in that place right now, where a part of me is resisting a potential change and I have to keep reminding myself to flow with life. The Universe knows better than me..;-). Thanks for posting this reminder.
February 12, 2009 at 6:11 am
Taru–Thanks for your lovely comment. It is so nice to hear about another’s path and work in this world.
February 12, 2009 at 8:09 am
I liked your last sentence, Molly! How wonderful it is!
February 12, 2009 at 8:21 am
This is a good analogy. The key is awareness and non-judgment. When we listen to our intuition and detach our decisions from ego and cultural expectations we then are able to truly be.
February 12, 2009 at 8:55 am
I have been thinking I am more like play-doh…
February 12, 2009 at 9:09 am
Play-doh….I can see that
February 12, 2009 at 9:11 am
ToBeMe–I totally agree. Awareness and nonjudgement…
Renee–It wasn’t mine, but thanks
February 12, 2009 at 12:47 pm
In my experience, as I grow up and practice, the more completely I fit into the puzzle. Less and less do I experience not fitting into the larger world. At times, there are no pieces at all – only *this!*
I seem only to experience not fitting (into friendships, jobs, locations, etc.) when I attach to ideas, am caught in aversion, or am lost in craving. Then I become a very small piece of nothing.
February 12, 2009 at 1:00 pm
Great Puzzle, like Spider’s Web:
“Spiderman, Spiderman,
Does whatever a spider can
Spins a web, any size,
Catches thieves just like flies
Look Out!
Here comes the Spiderman.
- – - -
Spiderman, Spiderman
Friendly neighborhood Spiderman
Wealth and fame
He’s ignored
Action is his reward.
To him, life is a great big bang up
Whenever there’s a hang up
You’ll find the Spider man.”
Sounds like practicing Zazen, eh?
Thanks, Molly, great post!
February 12, 2009 at 1:35 pm
“Let yourself be silently drawn by the pull of what you really love…”
Wonderful words..
I think we tend to hold onto those things that no longer fit – we live in fear if something ends rather than experience it as an opportunity for huge growth or as you have written – “it is that the fit just isn’t a good one any longer.”
If we can get rid of our own judgement about what it happening – we could be a lot happier.
Great post Molly..
February 12, 2009 at 3:28 pm
Barry–As always, thanks for your wonderful insights.
Uku–LOVE the poem.
Fibi–Thanks
February 12, 2009 at 4:26 pm
Thanks for the analogy.
Fitting together is wonderful, but I quite like it when things don’t fit either. Those are the times that require me to flex some of those practice muscles.
February 12, 2009 at 11:15 pm
The whole pull of life takes me somewhere … but I am never quite sure of where the ultimate destination is. I can procrastinate (often) and want to stay just where I am and then I am inevitably pulled further on. I hope I’m going to love where I end up.
February 13, 2009 at 12:06 am
We are constantly changing and of course some of the pieces will stop fitting so we have to discard them and find ones that fit better.
In life it is the journey that is important not the destination
Excellent post!
February 13, 2009 at 5:49 am
Alice– I quite agree.
Aggs–I think you are already there
Buddha of Hollywood–How right you are.
February 14, 2009 at 4:24 am
Great analogy Sometimes we do nicely fit in to feel much later that it is starting to be uncomfortable Thanks for this excellent post
February 15, 2009 at 2:21 pm
I think you are correct. We are pawns in the bigger game. Strangely, I am comfortable with that idea these days!
BTW you have been tagged on the topic “Slow Melodious and Soulful Songs” Please do it if you have time. Something makes me assume you know French!
Destination Infinity
July 16, 2009 at 11:24 am
““Let yourself be silently drawn by the pull of what you really love…” I so needed to read/here this today. Thanks, Molly for sharing this!!!